And one day I woke up and was sent to a strange place where I was forced to spend the remaining years of my life.
Why we girls are told that one day we have to live on our own in this new place which we would call ‘Home’ and we are not even warned that nothing would be the same again. For me ‘home’ is where I have my parents and my brother by my side, where I had the right to live as the way I want, where I lived my entire childhood. So how can they expect me to call some strange new place my home where everything is just… new? They expect me to adapt in a place where everything is exact opposite of what I want things to be. Where everything is owned by certain someone. Including me!
Till 20’s our lives are never stable. Something or the other keeps on getting in between this one peaceful moment we want. And when we think that our lives are now getting stable with a great job, no drama and a lot of time for ourselves, we even start planning a perfect future with world tour tickets and lots and lots of shots! That’s when a bomb is thrown over us, like that one which was thrown over Hiroshima and Nagasaki, maybe even worse. The ’this-is-the-perfect-age-to-get-married′ bomb. And the best thing is (just note the sarcasm here) you don’t even know you are getting married until that day where you woke up and see all the relatives walking in and out of your house, merrily gossiping about god knows what. And that one aunty would rush up to you, hug you in this rib-crushing hug and maybe just maybe if you are unlucky enough, would press sloppy and chaste kisses all over your face and you are just standing there with confusion written all over your face and that ‘eew’ look. Then she would just laugh and congratulate you for you are getting married. Like seriously? This aunty knows you are getting married before you know that yourself!
This article was meant to be a dead serious article with a thinking of a 16-year old girl who just had that worst ’hey-you-will-get-married-after-5-years′ moment. And this article just took that one turn I never wanted it to take, the comedy turn. This article has become a joke just like my life. Wait no not a joke. Jokes have meanings but my life? Nuh-uh.
Ouch my dark humour.
People might think Ash has gone insane and how could she talk about marriages with so much disgust but still you can never change my thoughts about marriages. And it’s not just you guys, every single person I know is like, “Oh please! I bet you are going to get married first.” Wait, listen to their damn logic first!
“Because you hate marriages so much! Ha Ha.” Yeah. Right. Ha. Ha. I bet you eat shit because hey! You hate poop:)
Just tell me this, did your mom and dad grew up their princess like she was actually a princess of this beautiful castle, for washing dishes of some other new family you don’t know a thing about? Were you grown up to banish your dreams and work day and night for a stupid boy who don’t even acknowledge your sacrifices? I’m not saying girls should boycott marriages. I’m just saying that stop forcing your girls to marry someone.
In today’s world marriage has lost its whole meaning and is just treated like a contract between two families which says: “Give us your daughter and we will give you kids to play and spoil.” Like guys are you even for real? GIRLS ARE NOT BABY MAKING MACHINES. And it’s better if people understand this as soon as possible as women are not the same old cows or your pets anymore. They are standing up for themselves now and you will regret messing up with them.
When I told my mom that I’m not planning to marry ever she just laughed at my face and patted my cheek as to say ’you are so stupid’. I even told her I would run away from the house if she or papa forced me to marry anyone and that’s when things got really bad. She was so disappointed in me and told me that it was their house and she would kick me out herself if I ever said something like that again. Uh… Mom didn’t I just say the same thing? Well, I could do the thing I was best at. I got pissed. I was so pissed and that day I just understood one thing, my opinion doesn’t matter. No matter how successful I get, my parents would always want me to depend on another person.
That’s when I decided I would never want to become a baby making machine or someone’s servant or a dumb partner who is depended on her other half for even buying vegetables from the market. I will never be any of it. I will be a One Woman’s Army.
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